“Hey, are you doing ok? I noticed you’ve been a bit quiet. I’m here if you want to talk...” This is an example of what we call “Connecting Talk” which is a style of communication that invites closeness, greater understanding, and moments of comfort and clarity.

Do you feel guilty or shameful in those moments when you strongly disagree with your spouse’s opinions on something? Do you find yourself wanting to shy away from your own opinion for fear you will seem controlling or inflexible? You are not alone. So often couples ask me how to handle situations in which both partners strongly disagree. “If I see things dramatically different, am I the contentious one?” or “If I disagree with him, am I being disrespectful and argumentative?”

In the process of communication, the listener has the most difficult job of any parties involved. The role of the listener can be frustrating and exhausting, or it can be fulfilling and rewarding. The power of listening is profound and plays a crucial role in various aspects of personal and professional life.

Love is a continuous journey that requires intentional steps to preserve and nurture its growth. Love requires effort from both partners. Regularly assessing and addressing the needs of your relationship can help foster a strong and lasting connection.